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Oct. 21st, 2003 10:16 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
wisdomeagleCan I hear a "hell yes"?
"It makes me wonder how much (conventional) buddy slash may or may not be about (straight) women's longing for our own past best friends. Most slashers are women, and women do, in fact, form fairly serious emotional bonds with other women (raise your hand if you made a promise to a girl friend, back in your youth, that when you got married you'd live in the same apartment building, or in the house next door, etc.) And then, of course, that doesn't happen--or typically it doesn't happen, anyway. (Your life may be an exception, I don't know.) But typically, for straight women at least, the pattern is marriage and a kind of lessening of emotional intensity between girlfriends, because you're "supposed" to be putting that intensity into your marriage (or, if you're not married, your friend is and now her husband/partner/lover is getting all her emotional energy.) What's interesting to me is the extent to which--okay, follow this. In slash, very often the guys get ambushed by their homosexuality ("Ohmigod, I love Fraser, I'm gay.") But in life, I think, straight women get ambushed by heterosexuality, which breaks up the great romances of their lives--their relationships with other women." --![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
cesperanza here, in part of the discussion generated by this discussion.
I'm saying "Amen!" every tree seconds, frankly.
"It makes me wonder how much (conventional) buddy slash may or may not be about (straight) women's longing for our own past best friends. Most slashers are women, and women do, in fact, form fairly serious emotional bonds with other women (raise your hand if you made a promise to a girl friend, back in your youth, that when you got married you'd live in the same apartment building, or in the house next door, etc.) And then, of course, that doesn't happen--or typically it doesn't happen, anyway. (Your life may be an exception, I don't know.) But typically, for straight women at least, the pattern is marriage and a kind of lessening of emotional intensity between girlfriends, because you're "supposed" to be putting that intensity into your marriage (or, if you're not married, your friend is and now her husband/partner/lover is getting all her emotional energy.) What's interesting to me is the extent to which--okay, follow this. In slash, very often the guys get ambushed by their homosexuality ("Ohmigod, I love Fraser, I'm gay.") But in life, I think, straight women get ambushed by heterosexuality, which breaks up the great romances of their lives--their relationships with other women." --
cesperanza here, in part of the discussion generated by this discussion.I'm saying "Amen!" every tree seconds, frankly.